fix: derived-state determinism, error visibility, metrics naming, HTTP hardening

- rebuild: fold observations per fingerprint in a total order
  (hcl DESC, node_id DESC, id DESC) so two nodes with identical logs
  rebuild identical entries (was: arbitrary bare-column row, merge-order
  dependent)
- threads: CreateThreadCluster uses INSERT OR IGNORE + existing-id
  fallback — concurrent auto-threaders converge instead of hitting UNIQUE
- errors surfaced instead of swallowed: scanEntries returns rows.Err(),
  Stats() fails fast on query errors, AutoLinkThreadObservations /
  linkTemporalNeighbors / golden-thread linking propagate failures,
  AddThreadNote + LinkObservationToThread write under one tx,
  watch records session upsert failures
- gossip client: push checks HTTP status and reports errors (a broken
  push direction no longer looks like a silent success); gossip diff
  gets a 10s timeout so a dead peer cannot hang the CLI
- ingest: failed source sweeps (obsidian/browser/gitea) are logged,
  and -d's help text now states its file-only scope
- watch --quiet: fatal errors go to stderr instead of io.Discard
- main: cobra SilenceErrors/SilenceUsage (errors print once, usage is
  not dumped on runtime failures); knox mcp exits 0 on SIGINT/SIGTERM
- metrics: drop _total suffix from gauges (knox_observations,
  knox_entries, knox_projects, knox_sessions, knox_peers, knox_threads);
  _total stays on counters per Prometheus convention
- http: ReadHeaderTimeout + IdleTimeout on gossip, metrics, and web servers

tests: concurrent cluster-create idempotency, HCL-order rebuild fold
(both merge orders), push HTTP-error surfacing; full suite + -race pass,
gofmt clean

internal/cmd/watch.go

@@ -1,8 +1,10 @@
 package cmd
 
 import (
+	"fmt"
 	"io"
 	"log"
+	"os"
 
 	"github.com/david/knox/internal/db"
 	"github.com/david/knox/internal/watch"
@@ -25,7 +27,10 @@ func NewWatchCmd(kdb *db.KnoxDB) *cobra.Command {
 			log.Printf("[knox] starting watcher, scanning %d directories", len(dirs))
 			w := watch.New(kdb, dirs)
 			if err := w.Start(); err != nil {
-				log.Fatalf("watcher error: %v", err)
+				// Not log.Fatalf: --quiet redirects the logger to io.Discard,
+				// so a fatal exit must reach the user on stderr directly.
+				fmt.Fprintf(os.Stderr, "watcher error: %v\n", err)
+				os.Exit(1)
 			}
 		},
 	}